A recent video featuring Clergywoman Funke Adejumo offering advice to single ladies preparing to meet their parents-in-law for the first time has sparked a wave of reactions across Nigerian social media platforms.
In the video, Adejumo emphasizes the importance of appropriate behavior and cultural etiquette during such visits. She advises against arriving with extravagant gifts, suggesting instead a modest offering like a basket of fruits or a wrapper. Adejumo underscores the significance of humility, particularly in Yoruba culture, where kneeling to greet elders is customary. She advises women to remain on their knees until instructed to stand, showcasing respect for the elders.
Further, Adejumo advises against excessive movement or overly revealing attire, emphasizing the need for modesty and comfort. She advises against interjecting in conversations and suggests leaving food untouched if unsatisfactory, to avoid any potential faux pas.
Her counsel has elicited a range of responses on social media. While some endorse her recommendations as prudent and respectful, others express skepticism, arguing that authenticity should not be compromised in the pursuit of approval from prospective in-laws.
The video has ignited a broader conversation about societal expectations and cultural norms surrounding marital relationships, prompting individuals to reflect on their own experiences and beliefs regarding familial acceptance and personal authenticity.
