[Help] DNA Shocker! Should I Tell My Father I Am Not His Son?

[nigeriatopjobs]

After reading a report about the high number of people who are not sure who their biological father really is, I decided to get a test done to confirm any suspicions I may have. I have to admit that I had always wondered about this since it occurred to me that I look much more like my father's best friend than my father himself.

I told my father that I was getting a comprehensive DNA test done for a government job I was applying for and that is how I got him to give me some of his DNA. I am 26-years-old and the guilt of even thinking that my late mother would have had an affair on my father was eating me up. But I decided that I would go through with it and just get the test done anyways.

After waiting for a few weeks, my test results came back and I was horrified to find out that the man who I called my father for 26 years was not my biological father. The test results left no doubt at all and my world suddenly started to unravel.

The test results did not change the fact that the man I called my father raised me and loved me as his own. I was 10-years-old when my mother passed away and my father filled the void as best he could and I have nothing but love and admiration for the man.

But now I am torn as to what I should do. Should I tell my father that he is not my father and present the test results as proof? Do I risk shattering my father's memory of my mother and possibly destroying my relationship with my father? How deep will the pain be for my father when I tell him that I think his best friend for the last 30 years of his life could be my biological father?

What about finding my real biological father? Should I press the issue with my father's best friend to see if he is my biological father? Is this something I just keep inside me to preserve my life and my mother's memory the way it is now? I truly have no idea what I should do.

 

[Ochanya]

What you dont know, wont hurt you...leave the poor man alone to die a happy man biko...thankmelater

 

[Temitope]

My friend, having come this far for 26 years, you don't need to bother yourself about who your true father is. By the way, seems you are very much inquisitive to have gone that far getting your father's DNA to confirm with your own.

Even if you look much more like your father's friend, your father has never for once had this suspicion himself and has you said, he has poured his love on you and raised you as his own dear son all thes years. Please don't break his heart. Don't tell him your findings and don't have any emotional entanglement with his friend.

You should not leave a honest man (your dad) to associate with a 'cheat' (his friend), if truly he was the one whose affair with your mum produced you. I will advise that you tear that DNA report and throw it into the dustbin. As long as your current dad didn't discover himself and he's not treating you any badly.

Another thing you may not know is that there might have been a deal between your dad, your mom and his friend for any biological or physiological reason to have you that way. So I'll advise you let the sleeping dog lie.

In conclusion the position of being a father is not just about giving birth to a child. Fatherhood has much more to do with raising a child which I think your dad has done. Not many have the privilege of knowing their biological fathers and they were still fathered by someone. Ultimately, God is the father of us all. Therefore, hold on to God and your current dad. Forget about the DNA report completely.